How Do I Bring Up Memory Concerns With a Loved One?
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Rachel Murphy is a Cognitive Health Specialist at NewDays who helps families navigate questions about memory, aging, and cognitive health.
Question:
How Do I Bring Up Memory Concerns With a Loved One?
Answer by Rachel Murphy:
If you're worried about a loved one's memory, one of the biggest mistakes is bringing it up right after they've forgotten something.
Instead, choose a calm, private moment and approach the conversation with curiosity rather than concern. Focus on what you've observed, not what you think is wrong.
For example, you might say, "I've noticed you've mentioned forgetting a few appointments lately. How are you feeling about that?"
Open-ended questions create space for conversation without triggering fear or defensiveness.
The goal isn't to diagnose someone. It's to understand what they're experiencing and to show support.
Memory concerns can be difficult for both the person experiencing them and the people who care about them. Approaching the conversation with empathy and curiosity can help your loved one feel heard rather than judged.
Remember, you don't need to have all the answers. Sometimes the most important first step is simply creating a safe space for an honest conversation.
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